Healing Trauma Begins with THIS Shift in Thinking…
We ALL have experienced trauma or we all WILL at some point.
By Trauma of course, I mean “stuff that hurts or feels bad that negatively impacts our daily lives until we RE-INTERPRET it as a ‘gift’.”
The only way to let go of trauma is to either forget it, or change its meaning. Forgetting is hard and often comes with negative health impacts if we attempt to “forget” through drugs and alcohol. Some people just stay so busy that they “forget” their pain. And that’s perhaps better than wallowing. But ultimately that’s repression. And eventually it needs to be faced.
The only solution I’ve found in a lifetime of seeking relief from my own pain as well as helping clients get relief in my therapy practice, is to change the meaning of the traumatic event. This takes courage and imagination. And it’s an inside job. No one can tell another person who is in pain, “this is really good because…….” When someone is in pain only THEY can choose to believe “This is GOOD because….”
Does that make sense?
Once a person chooses to decide that the painful, negative event or situation is in some shape or form a BLESSING, they can THEN begin to heal and let go at the same time they retain the “lesson” or the “gift” or the “insight.”
There is no “bad” or “good,” someone famous said, “except what thinking makes it so.” (or something like that).
Again, this is not a “should” this is a key to the cage of trauma, pain, depression, anxiety, bankruptcy, divorce, loss of loved one, fear of death, rejection, childhood bullying, etc etc etc.
Most of us don’t realize how much pain we are walking around suppressing on a daily basis. Maybe you want to hold on to it for a while longer. Or maybe it’s time for you to let some of it or all of it go.
Either way My deepest desire for you is freedom, health, wealth and happiness!
– Love Mark